{"id":4348,"date":"2022-01-23T10:27:54","date_gmt":"2022-01-23T10:27:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/outsiderland.com\/danahilliot\/?page_id=4348"},"modified":"2022-01-23T10:27:54","modified_gmt":"2022-01-23T10:27:54","slug":"savoir-ce-quon-veut","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/outsiderland.com\/danahilliot\/savoir-ce-quon-veut\/","title":{"rendered":"Savoir ce qu&rsquo;on veut"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n r-1s2bzr4\">\n<div id=\"id__u6p7e7njn5d\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-1blvdjr r-16dba41 r-vrz42v r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">\u00ab\u00a0Freud a \u00e9crit qu\u2019apr\u00e8s trente ans de travail aupr\u00e8s des femmes, il n\u2019avait toujours pas trouv\u00e9 ce qu\u2019elles voulaient. J\u2019aurais eu envie de lui demander : leur avez-vous seulement pos\u00e9 la question ?\u00a0\u00bb (Deborah Levy)<\/span><\/div>\n<div dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><\/div>\n<div id=\"id__diw098jj7k5\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Sans doute parce qu&rsquo;elles ne savaient pas ce qu&rsquo;elles voulaient &#8211; ou parce qu&rsquo;il ne leur \u00e9tat gu\u00e8re permis de \u00ab\u00a0vouloir\u00a0\u00bb en dehors des voies \u00e9triqu\u00e9es du d\u00e9sir autoris\u00e9 pour les femmes de l&rsquo;\u00e9poque de Freud (Lisez Virginia Woolf !) &#8211; on pourrait penser qu&rsquo;aujourd&rsquo;hui les obstacles que dressaient la morale (pour dire vite) autrefois au d\u00e9sir ont \u00e9t\u00e9 en partie lev\u00e9s. Ce n&rsquo;est pas si simple. La plupart des analysants, quel que soit leur sexe d&rsquo;ailleurs, <\/span><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">souffrent de ne pas savoir ce qu&rsquo;ils veulent, ou, pour mieux dire peut-\u00eatre, de ne pas \u00eatre en mesure d&rsquo;imaginer un objet susceptible d&rsquo;\u00eatre assign\u00e9 \u00e0 leur d\u00e9sir. Je d\u00e9sirerais autre chose que cette vie-l\u00e0, mais je ne sais pas quoi.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__vzodlb4tenl\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Tout semble possible certes. Mais rien n&rsquo;est possible d&rsquo;un autre point de vue. Les frustrations se d\u00e9clinent au gr\u00e9 des histoires de vie, des pesanteurs accumul\u00e9es, des angoisses et des peurs, qui gr\u00e8vent notre imaginaire d\u00e9sirant, ce que nous nous autorisons \u00e0 d\u00e9sirer. Les in\u00e9galit\u00e9s socio-\u00e9conomiques sont bien l\u00e0 \u00e9galement, m\u00eame dans les cabinets de psychanalyse, et font une sacr\u00e9e diff\u00e9rence quand il s&rsquo;agit d&rsquo;apprendre \u00e0 tol\u00e9rer la frustration, \u00ab\u00a0se faire une raison\u00a0\u00bb.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__s1sxvp5i4ji\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Et puis, vous avez de ces patients qui, au contraire, sont obs\u00e9d\u00e9s par un objet exclusif, qui n&rsquo;en n&rsquo;imaginent qu&rsquo;une seul et pas un autre &#8211; pas moins embarrass\u00e9 finalement de leur si pauvre d\u00e9sir qui sature tout l&rsquo;horizon.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__6bbc4dwd27\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Et puis il y a vieillir. Se d\u00e9battre encore avec le d\u00e9sir quand le corps ne suit plus vraiment, l&rsquo;extinction successive des r\u00eaves, et l&#8217;empire du futur ant\u00e9rieur : le \u00ab\u00a0ce qui aurait pu \u00eatre et n&rsquo;a pas \u00e9t\u00e9 et ne sera plus\u00a0\u00bb.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__25seak4tfd7\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">La psychanalyse c&rsquo;est apprendre \u00e0 reconna\u00eetre que nos existences sont tiss\u00e9es de non-\u00eatre, reposent sur ce qui n&rsquo;a pas \u00e9t\u00e9, ce qui aurait pu \u00eatre, ou aurait du, et ne sera sans doute pas, ou jamais, ou jamais plus. &amp;c.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__tmv2iotnm7\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Je parle ici de mon travail, de ce avec quoi mes patients et moi depuis plus de dix-sept ans avons affaire : les multiples instances du non-\u00eatre, ses douleurs et ses joies. La lucidit\u00e9 heureuse ou malheureuse.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\"><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1dbjc4n\">\n<div id=\"id__8ryn0jz36g8\" class=\"css-901oao r-18jsvk2 r-37j5jr r-a023e6 r-16dba41 r-rjixqe r-bcqeeo r-bnwqim r-qvutc0\" dir=\"auto\" lang=\"fr\"><span class=\"css-901oao css-16my406 r-poiln3 r-bcqeeo r-qvutc0\">Et ce n&rsquo;est gu\u00e8re facile dans le monde contemporain, satur\u00e9 de positivit\u00e9, de r\u00e9ussite, de performance, de faire entendre le sens du n\u00e9gatif, de l&rsquo;\u00e9chec, de l&rsquo;incapacit\u00e9 &#8211; et d&rsquo;en tirer les fruits.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00ab\u00a0Freud a \u00e9crit qu\u2019apr\u00e8s trente ans de travail aupr\u00e8s des femmes, il n\u2019avait toujours pas trouv\u00e9 ce qu\u2019elles voulaient. J\u2019aurais eu envie de lui demander : leur avez-vous seulement pos\u00e9 la question ?\u00a0\u00bb (Deborah Levy) Sans doute parce qu&rsquo;elles ne savaient pas ce qu&rsquo;elles voulaient &#8211; ou parce qu&rsquo;il ne leur \u00e9tat gu\u00e8re permis de&hellip;<\/p>\n <a href=\"https:\/\/outsiderland.com\/danahilliot\/savoir-ce-quon-veut\/\" title=\"Savoir ce qu&rsquo;on veut\" class=\"entry-more-link\"><span>Read More<\/span> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Savoir ce qu&rsquo;on veut<\/span><\/a>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"Layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[],"tags":[],"class_list":["entry","author-danah","post-4348","page","type-page","status-publish"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Savoir ce qu&#039;on veut - Outside Dana Hilliot<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/outsiderland.com\/danahilliot\/savoir-ce-quon-veut\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"fr_FR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Savoir ce qu&#039;on veut - Outside Dana Hilliot\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"\u00ab\u00a0Freud a \u00e9crit qu\u2019apr\u00e8s trente ans de travail aupr\u00e8s des femmes, il n\u2019avait toujours pas trouv\u00e9 ce qu\u2019elles voulaient. 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